Traumat taustalla

Tiedostatteko te kaksisuuntaista sairastavat, että teillä on taustalla lapsuuden traumat? Tämä kaksisuuntainen diagnoosi taitaa olla kehitetty sitä varten, että voitaisiin syyttää taas jotain biologisia tekijöitä. Oikeasti kyse on rajatilapersoonallisuudesta, joka voi syntyä pelkästään siitä, että tunnevammaiset vanhemmat mitätöivät lapsen tunteet ja vertailevat lasta esim. sisarukseen. Vanhemmat ei ymmärrä omia traumojaan vaan käyttävät ns. dissosiaatiota ja siirtävät mallin lapseen.

BPD sufferers experience a range of symptoms which are split into 9 categories. These are:

1) Extreme swings in emotions
2) Explosive anger
3) Intense fear of rejection/abandonment sometimes leading to frantic efforts to maintain a relationship
4) Impulsiveness
5) Self-harm
6) Unstable self-concept (not really knowing ‘who one is’)
7) Chronic feelings of ‘emptiness’ (often leading to excessive drinking/eating etc ‘to fill the vacuum’)
8) Dissociation ( a feeling of being ‘disconnected from reality’)
9) Intense and highly volatile relationships

For a diagnosis of BPD to be given, the individual needs to suffer from at least 5 of the above.

Emotional invalidation. Examples include:

- a parent telling their child they wish he/she could be more like his/her brother/sister/cousin etc.

- a parent telling the child he is ‘just like his father’ (meant disparagingly). This invalidates the child’s unique identity.

- telling a child s/he shouldn’t be upset/crying over something, therefore invalidating the child’s reaction and implying the child’s having such feelings is inappropriate.

– telling the child he/she is exaggerating about how bad something is. Again, this invalidates the child’s perception of how something is adversely affecting him/her.

- a parent telling a child to stop feeling sorry for him/herself and think about good things instead. Again, this oinvalidates the child’s sadness and encourages him/her to suppress emotions.

Invalidation of a child’s emotions, and undermining the authenticity of their feelings, can lead the child to start demonstrating his/her emotions in a very extreme way in order to gain the recognition he/she previously failed to elicit.

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