Compulsory heterosexuality

Taas yritetään luonnollista vääntää muka yhteiskunnan pakottamaksi. Pahoittelut nyt vaan propagandisteille, mutta valtaosa ihmisistä kuten myös muistakin eläinlajeista tuntee vetoa vastakkaiseen sukupuoleen eikä omaansa.

"Straight women feel authentically attracted to men, but their existences are no less defined by CompHet. They are still told to value men above themselves, to value their boyfriends’ and husbands’ pleasure and desires and wants above their own. They are encouraged to be a certain kind of women, to be submissive, to be sexually available at all times, to accept their heterosexual role.

This, crucially, is why it can be so hard to accept your sexuality as a lesbian, or as someone who simply does not want to exist in relation to men. When every cultural message in society, every story, every narrative, every piece of media and pop-sociological opinion piece and 'public intellectual’ is telling you: Subordinate your pleasure to men, subordinate your existence to men, destroy your own sense of self because your ideal state is male property: What does it matter if you’re attracted to men or not?

The regime of heterosexuality DOES NOT CARE if you are attracted to men. You are expected to serve a man, to please him, to be fucked by him regardless. To be a woman is to be heterosexual and thus to be an object of sexual and reproductive worth alone. “Man fucks woman; subject verb object.”"

https://www.reddit.com/r/latebloomerlesbians/comments/108qk3w/on_compulsory_heterosexuality_sex_with_men_and/

"This is why it is so difficult to come to terms with one’s sexuality as a woman. Our own pleasure, our own sexual existence is so very rarely prioritized and elevated and seen as essential to existing happily in a relationship. How can you tell that you’re a lesbian, when a miserable sexual existence for the woman is already expected in a heterosexual coupling? Are you a lesbian? Are you just fucking miserable because he demands sex constantly but never stimulates you or offers to use toys or goes down? Who the fuck can say?

This is further muddled because mainstream and liberal feminisms so very rarely address this from a useful lens. The idea of the “sexual liberation” of women still, somehow, reinforces heterosexuality. Women are not, by and large, encouraged to assert themselves in the bedroom, to demand that their male partners step up and close the orgasm gap, to view lack of sexual pleasure as a failing of a partner and relationship and move on if a man fails to clear a high bar. Instead, the discussion is focused on sex positivity and slut shaming, the question of whether women are ‘allowed’ to have as many substandard, unsatisfying male partners as they like, and how they should not be shamed for it. (If you squint at this, it’s literally just the Madonna-Whore complex all over again. The more things change, the more they stay the same. Sexual liberation as understood by liberal feminism has failed women of every orientation.)"

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