Stalkkaajat huomio! Motiivi toiminnalle?

– Terveellä pohjalla olevassa faniudessa ihminen ymmärtää, mikä on hänen ja julkisuuden henkilön välinen suhde - mikä on todellisuutta ja mikä hänen omaa fantasiaansa. Erotomaanilla tämä raja on kadonnut, Hynninen kertoo.

Useilla suomalaisilla julkkiksilla on vainoajansa, joista osa on erotomaaneja. Harva kuitenkaan haluaa puhua tästä. Pienikin huomionosoitus erotomaanille kiihdyttää vainoa.

Rakkaudentunnustuksilla vainoavan ihailijan viestejä ei useinkaan viedä poliisille, vaikka ne ahdistavat ja pelottavatkin.

Haavoittunut ihailija on riski. Komisario Hynnisen mielestä yli-innokkaan ihailijan vaino kannattaisi ottaa vakavasti. Kansainvälisten tutkimusten mukaan julkisuuden henkilöön rakastunut vainoaja tulee useammin oikeasti tapaamaan rakkautensa kohdetta kuin vihamielinen uhkailija.

Erotomaaneille on tyypillistä, että he saattavat lähettää jopa satoja tekstiviestejä päivässä ja lahjoja. Joskus he myös tulevat työpaikalle ja kodin lähettyville.

– Vainoaminen voi alkaa pienestä signaalista kuten silmiin katsomisesta artistin keikkapaikalla tai julkkis sanoo fanille jotain kivaa ja ystävällistä. Harhainen erotomaani voi kokea, että television uutistenlukijan tietty vaate tai katse on merkki juuri hänelle.

http://www.aamulehti.fi/Kotimaa/1194957650695/artikkeli/vainoamisesta tehdyt rikosilmoitukset ylittivat ennakkoarvion reilusti tuomiot ihmetyttavat.html

Vainoamisesta tehdyt rikosilmoitukset ylittivät ennakkoarvion reilusti – Tuomiot ihmetyttävät

Järjestöt tuomioista: Henkistä väkivaltaa ei oteta tosissaan.

Mies piinasi entistä kumppaniaan puolen vuoden ajan. Hän seurasi naista ajamalla autolla ja rullaluistelemalla toistuvasti tämän asunnon ohi. Mies ajoi usein naisen perässä tämän mennessä töihin. Kauppareissuillakaan tai ravintolassa hän ei jättänyt naista rauhaan. Mies myös lähetti naiselle useita osin uhkaavia tekstiviestejä. Nainen pelkäsi ja ahdistui. Hän joutui sairauslomalle.

Pohjois-Savon käräjäoikeus tuomitsi miehen vainoamisesta 40 päiväsakkoon.

Vuosi sitten rangaistavaksi teoksi tulleesta vainoamisesta annettiin ensimmäisen vuoden aikana parikymmentä tuomiota. Oikeusrekisterikeskuksen keräämät tuomiot osoittavat, että suurin osa rangaistuksista oli sakkoja tai ehdollista vankeutta.

Väkivaltaa ja sen uhkaa kokeneiden parissa työskentelevät järjestöt pitävät annettuja tuomioita varsin lievinä. Niiden mielestä tämä kertoo siitä, että henkistä väkivaltaa ei vieläkään oteta tosissaan.
- Meillä on totuttu laskemaan mustelmien määrää, vaikka vainoamisen aiheuttama ahdistus, stressi ja pelko voivat saada uhrin täydelliseen umpikujaan, harmittelee Naisten Linjan toiminnanjohtaja Pia Puu Oksanen.
Rikosoikeuden professori Jussi Tapani Turun yliopistosta sanoo, että käräjäoikeuksien tuomiot vainoamisesta vaikuttavat olevan linjassa rangaistusasteikon kanssa. Vainoamisesta voidaan tuomita sakkoa tai enintään kaksi vuotta vankeutta.

- Vainoamisesta ei ole törkeää tekomuotoa, joten se on ehkä omiaan ohjaamaan rangaistuskäytäntöä asteikon alapäähän.
Tapani ei usko, että kovimmillakaan tuomioilla olisi merkittävää pelotevaikutusta, joka saisi vainoajan perääntymään.

Pia Puu Oksasen mukaan vainoaminen on yleistä. Siitä kertovat muun muassa Poliisiammattikorkeakoulun tilastot, joiden mukaan vainoamisesta kirjattiin viime vuonna yli 630 rikosilmoitusta. Määrä on kaksi kertaa suurempi kuin poliisin arvioima luku lain valmisteluvaiheessa.
Vainoamiseen syyllistyy henkilö, joka toistuvasti esimerkiksi uhkaamalla tai seuraamalla vainoaa toista ja aiheuttaa vainotussa pelkoa tai ahdistusta.

Suomessa poliisi ja muu viranomainen on itse vainoja ja menee mukaan vainoajan juttuihin vaikka EU maissa laki on erilainen. Että vainoamiset ja stalkkaamiset voi viedä EU tuomioistuimeen asti ratkottavaksi niin alkaa tulla ihan kunnon tuomioita miten EU maissa käyttäydytään.

http://www.europarl.europa.eu/news/fi/news-room/content/20130319IPR06694/html/EU-wide-civil-law-protection-for-victims-of-stalking-or-gender-violence

http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=50316

Mind of a Stalker: Why Torment Someone?

Stalkers are lonely and lack self-esteem, yet they feel very, very important.

What motivates these stalkers, and how dangerous are they?

"It's repeated boxes of candy, clothing, showing up at your house, putting things through your mail slot, notes on your car -- even though you've asked them to stop,"

Psychiatrists have developed several stalker profiles:

The rejected stalker. This person was rejected in a relationship, and they perceive it as an insult, they feel wounded, and they are seeking vindication.

The resentful stalker. These are self-righteous, self-pitying people who may threaten, but they are the least likely to act on it.

The intimacy-seeking stalker. They believe they are loved or will be loved by the victim. Often they focus on someone of higher social status. This person is mentally ill and delusional.

The incompetent. This person is socially backward. He doesn't really understand the social rules involved in dating and romance. He doesn't mean any harm.

The predator. This is about sex gratification, control, and violence. The stalker doesn't necessarily know the victim. The victim may not know she is being stalked. But a predator plans their attack, rehearses it, has lots of sexual fantasies about it.

The rejected and predatory stalkers are most likely to assault their victims, says Zitek.
"The stalker is usually an isolated and shy person, one who lives alone, lacks any type of important intimate relationship -- not just sexual, but friends or family, too," Moore tells WebMD. "There's also a narcissistic personality disorder and very low self-esteem. The stalker feels that they're the most important person in the world."

Many people stalk someone they have only met briefly -- someone they don't really know, or barely know. The stalker may also focus on a celebrity, especially if they've seen him or her in person -- at a public appearance like a concert. "They develop convoluted thoughts about this person. They feel this person is the answer to their dreams," says Moore.

Stalkers write countless letters or emails to their victims, begging for attention. They make repeated phone calls, send gifts, flowers, candies, cards. They secretly follow the victim, either by car or in an insidious way -- by getting access to the victim's email.

"We've seen this in many relationships. The stalker figures out your password and reads all your email," Moore tells WebMD. "Many people use the same password for many things -- the ATM, various email accounts, and web sites. Stalkers are often smart enough figure that out and use it to get into email. They even get into the victim's bank account, find out which ATM they use, find out up to the minute where they went to eat, when they shopped."
When to Be Concerned

The red flags:

You immediately start getting several phone calls or emails right after meeting this person.

The person is clingy, controlling, or upset if you want to spend time with friends and family.

"Don't make any sudden moves," says Moore. "Don't tell them 'I don't want anything do with you.' By rejecting that person, there is a chance of violence. If you reject that person, often times they feel angry, threatened. There is the possibility of violence."

Take action:

Tell everyone you know that this is going on -- your employer, friends, family.

Gently but firmly tell the person you've decided to move on. Don't get drawn into discussions of why. Just say, "This situation isn't right for me" or "I'm not ready yet" -- whatever you need to say, but say it gently.

If this doesn't work, you may need to take legal action, Moore says. File a police report, file a restraining order, change your email and ATM passwords. "Their fantasy is that you love them. You really need to be on the offensive. There's no harm in changing passwords."

Caution: "Never, ever underestimate a threat. Don't take it lightly, even if it's in an email. Take it to the authorities. Ignore it at your own peril. It will only get worse," he says.

He describes the "obsessive love wheel" -- the various stages of a relationship obsession:

The attraction phase

The anxious phase, when the controlling behaviors show themselves

The obsessive phase, where stalking takes place

The destructive phase

"Unless a stalker wants to change, you can't stop them," Moore tells WebMD. "They will only change when their world around them starts crashing around them."

Equally disturbing: Law enforcement officials often don't act on reports of stalking, Zitek adds. "They're more understanding now than they used to be. But if you call the police and say, 'My ex-boyfriend is stalking me,' they may not actually do anything about it. They'll say, 'Call us if he comes on your property.'"

Here's something else to consider: Are you a stalker? If you see this obsessive pattern in yourself, see a therapist or join a support group like Co-Dependents Anonymous, he says. "A lot of times, stalkers have addiction issues. They may be drinking or doing drugs. It's important for them to reach out. But they also have to reach in -- admit something is going on, get to a therapist or support group so they don't feel all alone."


https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/talking-about-trauma/201306/in-the-mind-stalker

Stalking is defined as repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact, or any other behavior directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear. In 2006, psychologist Brian Spitzberg at San Diego State University conducted large-scale representative studies of stalking behavior across three continents. He reported that 2–13% of males and 8–32% of females are victimized by stalking at some point in their adult lives, and in the majority of such cases, the person is stalked by someone they know.

The relentless neurotic nature of the stalker can take the form of harassing their targets, calling them repeatedly, as well as sending letters and gifts. If these are ineffective, the individual may escalate to more intrusive behaviors such as spying on, and unexpectedly confronting their victims. Research tends to focus on how violating it is to bear the brunt of stalkers’ obsessions, but there is little to explain what exactly motivates the stalker, and further, how to therapeutically treat these offenders.

In reality, most stalkers do not suffer from hallucinations or delusions, although many do suffer from other forms of mental illness including depression, substance abuse, and personality disorders.

Mullen defined the rejected stalking type as an individual who has experienced the unwanted end of a close relationship, most likely with a romantic partner, but also with a parent, work associate, or acquaintance. When this stalker’s attempts to reconcile fail, they frequently seek revenge. The therapeutic focus is usually centered on the stalker ‘falling out of love.’ The individual is counseled on how to move on from an angry preoccupation with the past to the sadness of accepted loss.

he resentful stalker experiences feelings of injustice and desires revenge against their victim rather than a relationship. Their behavior reflects their perception that they have been humiliated and treated unfairly, viewing themselves as the victim.

Finally, the predator stalker also has no desire for a relationship with their victims, but a sense of power and control. Mullen explains that they find pleasure in gathering information about their victim and fantasizing about assaulting them physically, and most frequently sexually. Predatory stalkers should almost always be managed within a sex-offender program, with the main focus being on the management of the paraphilia that is the driving force behind the stalking behavior.

Therapeutic interventions for stalkers are directed first at their mental disorders. Stalkers as a group, have an impressive capacity to rationalize, minimize and excuse their behaviors.

Mullen explains that in almost all stalkers there is a need both to improve interpersonal and social skills, and to instill a more realistic understanding of the impact of their behaviors on victims. Stalkers should be managed individually, with group work avoided. Like sex offenders, stalkers can readily establish networks of mutual support and information-sharing within the group, sustaining the behavior being treated.

Mullen’s research suggests that professionals should focus not on the stalkers as criminals but as vulnerable, distressed individuals whose behaviors reflect, at least in part, the influence of a serious underlying mental disorder. The most important step in the management of stalkers is to see them as individuals in need of psychological help.

http://www.oddee.com/item_98278.aspx&sa

In today's day and age, it's not unusual to joke around on Facebook about stalking a paramour, and for the most part, casual cyber-stalking is a harmless pursuit. However, there is a line, and certain individuals who may be mentally unbalanced can become fixated on others, often sensing a connection between themselves and the object of their affection which does not actually exist.

There are many different categories of stalkers, and you can learn more about them here. In this article, we will cover some of the weirdest cases of stalking ever reported, but this is a mere sampling of the scary stories out there.


For example, leaving odd gifts for him to find...

http://totalsororitymove.com/20-signs-youre-an-actual-social-media-stalker/

You feel closer to people after a good Facebook stalking sesh than you do after meeting them in real life.

You already know the face, name, and one fun fact of every single PNM who walks into your house during rush.

You pretend not to know things about people so they don’t figure out the extent of your creepiness.



Helping your sisters stalk the guys they met in the bar last night is a normal pastime for you.



You can literally find anyone on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. There’s not an alias on Earth that could stump you.

You don’t even need names to find people on Facebook anymore.

You knew about the Google reverse image search long before Nev did.

You use hashtags to find individual profiles on Instagram. “Hmm…I feel like Mike would hashtag something like this…”

The euphoric high you get after finding gossip on someone’s Facebook cannot be matched by
anything on Earth.




You get seriously angry when someone has tight privacy settings.




You know you weren’t invited somewhere because of the photos on Instagram. Ha. Who are we kidding? This never happens.


Shutting down your social media accounts during recruitment is easily the darkest week of your life.


You pretty much know exactly when your friends are going to be on Facebook.

You comment on pictures of your crush on a mutual friend’s page hoping that he will see your gorgeous profile picture and friend you. And then marry you.




You know all of your sisters’ friends from home even though you’ve never met any of them in person.



You’ve friended people from a friend’s account after he or she blocked you just so you could continue stalking.


You’re not even fazed by relationship status changes anymore. You already realized the relationship was over after she untagged all of her pictures with him.


Blocking you only makes you stronger. And crazier.

Blokkaamalla stallkkaajan perättömät stalkkerointi-ilmoitukset eri viranomaisille....


You were voted “Most likely to be caught Facebook stalking” at your sorority’s formal. Or maybe that was just me.





You’re not ashamed of any of this. Not even a little bit.

sairasta...

Stalk on and stalk hard, darlings.

Nostetaan kissa pöydälle. AARNIO GANGSTALKKAAMISEN KOHTEENA. Aloitus tuli HS:n kautta.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YCnDMpD5rQ4

Ymmärsinkö oikein, Onko (jengi)stalkkaajan motiivina siis häiriköidä tahallisesti uhriaan, kunnes tämä reagoi jotenkin, jolloin voi itse mennä itkemään poliisille tai niille naapureille ja esittää itsensä uhrina?

Onko jengi)stalkkaaja huomiota vailla oleva psykopaatti?

jengivärvääjille kuolema

Vielä 2015 asioista keskusteltiin palstoilla. Täältä on moni lähtenyt stalkkaajien ja provojen piehtaroidessa koko paikan ilmapiirin huonoksi.

Te, jotka olette lähteneet, liittykää joukkovainottujen yhdistykseen.Kyselkää, miten sen voi tehdä. eiköhän sihteeri vastaa.

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