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When not to say I love you
by Marged Richards
   
1    When you don't mean it
   
A common scenario in which we sometimes say 'I love you' without meaning is when we think it's what the other person wants to hear. Sometimes we say it when we think we ought to, or because someone's said it to us. It might be easy just to say it back, but lying will hurt them far more (even though they don't want to acknowledge that). 'It's important to never say it unless you actually feel it,' says Malcom Stern, a co-founder of Alternatives.org.uk.
      

2    When you're afraid of losing him
   
If your relationship is rocky, telling him you love him isn't a good idea. It might seem so on the surface, but using emotion to try and stay in the relationship will do neither of you any favours. Rather than glossing over reality with nice words, try to get to the heart of the matter - what's causing problems between you? What can you both do to resolve them? Talk.
      
3    When he's mad at you    

He's bound to see through your attempt at emotional blackmail. Only say those Three Little Words when you really, really mean them, and you know he feels the same way too. They don't belong in negative situations - use them only when he makes you feel special and gooey inside.
      
4    When you think being with him means you'll be kept financially...    

...go on lots of holidays, and have an easy life. Never, ever a good idea. You're making a fool of both you.
      
5    When you think you'd rather be with someone than on your own    

Society message is basically: couples = good, single women = bad. No wonder we're joining dating agencies in our millions. Tempting though it is to settle for any relationship because the thought of being on your own is scary, please don't. 'Some girls stay in an unhealthy relationship thinking that until someone better turns up, at least they'll have someone to go out with. How unfair is it to use someone because you don't like your own company?' asks Balbir. Don't stick to second best. Concentrate on making yourself happier rather than looking to someone else for the answers. And anyway, Mr Perfect might be just around the corner.

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When not to say I love you
by Marged Richards
   
1    When you don't mean it
   
A common scenario in which we sometimes say 'I love you' without meaning is when we think it's what the other person wants to hear. Sometimes we say it when we think we ought to, or because someone's said it to us. It might be easy just to say it back, but lying will hurt them far more (even though they don't want to acknowledge that). 'It's important to never say it unless you actually feel it,' says Malcom Stern, a co-founder of Alternatives.org.uk.
      

2    When you're afraid of losing him
   
If your relationship is rocky, telling him you love him isn't a good idea. It might seem so on the surface, but using emotion to try and stay in the relationship will do neither of you any favours. Rather than glossing over reality with nice words, try to get to the heart of the matter - what's causing problems between you? What can you both do to resolve them? Talk.
      
3    When he's mad at you    

He's bound to see through your attempt at emotional blackmail. Only say those Three Little Words when you really, really mean them, and you know he feels the same way too. They don't belong in negative situations - use them only when he makes you feel special and gooey inside.
      
4    When you think being with him means you'll be kept financially...    

...go on lots of holidays, and have an easy life. Never, ever a good idea. You're making a fool of both you.
      
5    When you think you'd rather be with someone than on your own    

Society message is basically: couples = good, single women = bad. No wonder we're joining dating agencies in our millions. Tempting though it is to settle for any relationship because the thought of being on your own is scary, please don't. 'Some girls stay in an unhealthy relationship thinking that until someone better turns up, at least they'll have someone to go out with. How unfair is it to use someone because you don't like your own company?' asks Balbir. Don't stick to second best. Concentrate on making yourself happier rather than looking to someone else for the answers. And anyway, Mr Perfect might be just around the corner.

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When to say I love you
by Marged Richards    

1 When you know it's the real thing    

If you know he feels as strongly as you do, go ahead and say those Three Little Words. 'When love is genuinely reciprocated, you don't have to wait for him to say it first,' says Malcom Stern, author of The Courage to Love (Piatkus). What if he doesn't say it back? 'He may not. Very often, when you say 'I love you' you're actually asking a question: do you love me? But the best way is to offer it as a gift, not a bargaining tool.'
      
2 When he's tender and caring    

Two basic human needs, physical touch and affection are crucial in a relationship. Us girls need to be hugged and cuddled, unlike most men, says Balbir Chagger, co-founder of the Harley Relationship Centre. So when he holds and kisses you just because he wants to be close to you (rather than doing it as a means to get your clothes off), tell him how much you like it. There might be times when you first met when you couldn't tell the difference between feeling loved and feeling mauled. That's because you need to learn how each of you likes being touched. 'Don't assume that because a previous partner liked being touched in a certain way, your boyfriend will too,' warns Balbir. 'And if his hands do things that annoy you, tell him quick. Otherwise he'll carry on doing it, and you'll get more and more angry with him.'
      
3 When you can laugh, cry, and be serious with him
   
When you can really be yourself with someone, you're on to a good thing. 'A real relationship is one in which you feel you can communicate honestly about everything - worries, hopes, dreams, problems - without feeling judged or criticised. That is what a meaningful relationship is all about,' explains Balbir.
      
4 When you want to be with him, without wanting to change him    

If you adore and accept your man just the way he is, the good bits and the bad, then you're in a great place to enjoy a healthy, potentially long lasting relationship. If you think you can change him, think again. The only person that can do that is him - and only if he wants to. If you find yourself thinking about the things you'd like to change about him, why not look at what you might change about yourself to make you a better, more compassionate girlfriend?
      
5 When every time you think of him you feel warm inside and you smile uncontrollably    

Aww - you've got it bad girl! Enjoy it.