"naughty step" periaate?

Meillä on tyttö laitettu "jäähylle" ensin noin vuoden vanhana esim. keittiön tuolille (pidetty aloillaan pari sek) ja nyt reilu pari -vuotiaana toiseen huoneeseen (1-2min).

Lähinnä tai oikeastaan aina nämä jäähyt ovat kuuluneet tilanteisiin joissa toiminta koiran kanssa yltynyt jahtaamiseksi, liian kovakouraiseksi halailuksi, korvien repimiseksi jne. eikä sanallinen kielto tehoa. Jäähy eli totaalinen erottaminen toisesta osapuolesta on ainoa keino silloin, kun riskinä on lemmikin hermostuminen ja konflikti (lapsen loukkaantuminen).

Joka kerta näihin jäähyihin meillä kuuluu perustelu ja joskus tilanteen mentyä ohi vielä keskustelu tai muistelu, mitä tapahtui ja mitä siitä seurasi. Lapselle annetaan myös kiittävää palautetta silloin kun hän toimii oikein ja jäähytilateessakin usein sanon, että tiedän hänen osaavan käsitellä koiraa myös nätisti.

Silloin vuoden ikäisenä jäähy siis toimi "pysäyttäjänä", jonka jälkeen ohjattiin mielenkiintoa muuhun ja nyt reilu kaksi-vuotiaana sillä on jo mielestäni kasvatuksellinen tehtävä (toiminta-seuraus).

Virallista suositusta en tiedä olevan.

kokemuksista: Tuo ei ole ihan se tekniikka, josta alkuperäinen postaaja puhuu.

Hän puhuu Jo Frostin tekniikoista, kuten tämä "Naughty Step":

The Naughty Step Technique for Discipline

This technique can be applied between the ages of 2 and 6 years old.

1.) Give a warning (This is to stipulate the inappropriate behavior you want stopped. In a low toned voice having one to one eye contact and coming down to the child’s level as not to intimidate.)

Walk away from the child, to give them a chance to think about what you have just said. If you see the repeated behavior, go straight to #2.

2.)Take child silently to the step, sit them on it, and explain to them why they are now in time out.

3.) Walk away set the timer for one minute per year of age. If a child calls you from their time out ignore them. If the child gets up from their time out take them back to the step with no communication and walk away resetting the timer to the beginning.

4.) When the child has sat there for the correct amount of time. Go back to explain for the second time why they were placed on The Naughty Step.

5.)Tell them they need to apologize and say sorry for their behavior (This allows the child to understand the importance in reflection, and that their actions have had an impact, and by saying sorry one can start fresh.)

6.) Hugs and kisses after the apologies. (This is important because it allows the child to see that this is their parent’s disciplining them and that mommy and daddy do still love them.)



The “What If’s” of the Naughty Step.

1.) My child doesn’t want to look at me when I give them a warning, and puts their hands up over their ears. When a child has done something wrong the last thing they want hear is the authoritative voice of their parent. But trust me when I tell you they can hear every word you are saying. Hold their hands and bring them back down from their face, slow down your speech pattern and continue to give them a warning. Remember, this is your child trying to control the situation.

2.) When I take my child to the step, they keep trying to interrupt me, about what they did. And I never seem to get past step #2. When your child starts to give you a 1000 reasons why they misbehaved. Continue to explain why they are going to sit on the step and let them know that anything they want to talk about after the step is open for discuss. But for right now they are in timeout. This allows the child to realize that you mean what you say.

3.) I have to sit on my child to keep them on the naughty step as they keep running off. It is important for you to do the discipline technique properly and not be side tracked with trying to control what you see happening. Trust in the technique, every child who is strong willed and feisty will immediately get off the step and walk away from it. The reason why they do this is to test, to see whether you will put them back on it. Your follow through is critical to the success of being able to discipline your child for difficult and unruly behavior. Follow through, follow through , follow through.

4.) My child never wants to hear the second explanation. They just want to hug me and get off the step. At this stage it is normally because the child is now feeling sad, which means reflection has taken place, which is a good thing. If they go to hug you, tell them we will do hugs in a minute but it is important that you explain.