How can it be that my boyfriend is so jelous of my ex guys?He sometimes tells me really ugly things just because he is jelous, for example he tells me that I am not so clean because I have been with others and bullshits of this kind.
He is younger than me, but he has had girlfriends before me.He can be jelous, but if I am of course I am a boring person.It is already more than 2 years that this thing is going on, I don`t know anymore what to do, I have tried everything. Words are not enough. And what surprise me so much is that he is not jelous or scared that I could betray him now or that a guy comes and talks to me, only jelous about my stupid past.
He is younger than me, but he has had girlfriends before me.He can be jelous, but if I am of course I am a boring person.It is already more than 2 years that this thing is going on, I don`t know anymore what to do, I have tried everything. Words are not enough. And what surprise me so much is that he is not jelous or scared that I could betray him now or that a guy comes and talks to me, only jelous about my stupid past.
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Vanhimmat
if this really bothers you, as in it's getting in way of your relationship with the guy then you propably should just dump him and find some confident man.
Why would you want to spend your time in a relationship that is just destroying you from the inside? Why would you want to spend your time fighting about the past when you should just look forward? Why would you want to spend your time doing something you don't want to? You have only very little time in your life, so why not make it the best times you can have and not stick with the crap/scum of the earth?
With this much problem with just the PAST, how does your future look? Unless you two are ready to change your bad habits things will just get worse as time goes on.
In my opinion, if this jealous problem bothers you, find another guy that isn't insecure.
Then again it's all up to you to make the decision and stick with it, all we can do is point you to the right direction.
Breaking up a bad relationship is the best thing people can do to eachother, it usually makes the people look at themselves and realize what they need to change in order to succeed and become a better person.
Thank you very much for answering my message.
I agree with you.
It is just really difficult sometimes to take decisions, but it is true that some change must happen if I want my relationship to grow or develope, this kind of sick jelousy brings only to separation.
Damn how being in relationship is difficult sometimes!:-(
Thank you again.
I am reading again these jealousy discussions just to find some answer how to get rid off my jealousy.
I am woman and I am jealous about my bf's past. And it is nothing so bad and what ever, it happened before he had met me. I am not any better than him, I have made also mistakes in my life, so what's use to be jealous? So I admit, that my jealousy is totally stupid and insane.
I'm not really thinking that he would cheat me now. I trust him and I love him like mad. He has been very open to me and told about his life before me. And some pictures I have visualized too well in my mind. Thought, that someone else has touched him and he has touched other woman and he has enjoyed with her a lot, makes me feel soooo jealous.
Today, I was just sleeping at sofa and sudenly that thought hit me again, and I felt so upset. After so long time, again this thing came to my mind.
I have promised him not to blame him and not to start any more fight about this thing, so I really try to control myself. I just wish that I could control these feelings also, because this feels really horrible and sick.
So you know, your boyfriend is not only jealous one. But that i agree, that jealous person has to grow little bit. And yes, relationship is sometimes damn difficult...