My mother and older sister are trying to spoil my happiness about my upcoming wedding.
I have known my ex-stepmother, “Gina,” for 20 years and have been best friends with her for the past 15. We remained close even after she divorced my biological father.
I had an appointment to go dress shopping and invited my friends, my mom and Gina. When I told Mom that Gina was going, her response was that she would go “some other time.”
Mom has been remarried for more than 30 years and has spent time with Gina. They aren’t enemies.
My older sister told me that, if Gina is part of the bridal party, she won’t go to my wedding.
I’m having a bachelorette party in the state where Gina lives. The invitations won’t be sent for a few months. When my older sister found out, she accused me of not telling her. I explained that I’m not planning the party, a friend will be sending the invitations and I’m not keeping anything from her. She hung up on me.
These two ladies are spoiling what should be a happy time for me.
Read: http://www.sheindressau.com/one-shoulder-bridesmaid-dresses
Have I done something wrong?
— Seeking Advice
Dear Seeking: Your mother’s refusal to participate in the selection of your wedding gown was an example of passive aggression.
Your mother and sister aren’t trying to spoil your happiness about your wedding. They are trying to manipulate and blackmail you into excluding your former stepmother.
From this outsider’s perspective, you haven’t done anything wrong — but they have.
Dear Abby: I recently started volunteering at a wonderful organization and was asked to assist the board with a special project.
At the initial meeting with two board members, everything was going well until the first board member excused himself and the other one began to bad-mouth the person who had left the room.
I’m new to volunteering here. Neither board member knows me at all. I was uncomfortable, and I didn’t know how to respond.
I don’t want to get involved in such petty business, but I’ll have to work closely with both of them in the coming months. Most of my interactions will be with the person who was spoken about poorly. At least three board members have recently quit because of this person. How should I proceed?
— New Volunteer
Dear New Volunteer: Proceed by not allowing yourself to be dragged into board politics. If one board member starts bad-mouthing another, excuse yourself.
If three people have quit, problems obviously exist with the governance of the organization. If you can do your job without getting involved in the dysfunction, stick with it. If you can’t, for your own sanity, find another place to volunteer.
For more at http://www.sheindressau.com/wedding-dresses-sydney
I have known my ex-stepmother, “Gina,” for 20 years and have been best friends with her for the past 15. We remained close even after she divorced my biological father.
I had an appointment to go dress shopping and invited my friends, my mom and Gina. When I told Mom that Gina was going, her response was that she would go “some other time.”
Mom has been remarried for more than 30 years and has spent time with Gina. They aren’t enemies.
My older sister told me that, if Gina is part of the bridal party, she won’t go to my wedding.
I’m having a bachelorette party in the state where Gina lives. The invitations won’t be sent for a few months. When my older sister found out, she accused me of not telling her. I explained that I’m not planning the party, a friend will be sending the invitations and I’m not keeping anything from her. She hung up on me.
These two ladies are spoiling what should be a happy time for me.
Read: http://www.sheindressau.com/one-shoulder-bridesmaid-dresses
Have I done something wrong?
— Seeking Advice
Dear Seeking: Your mother’s refusal to participate in the selection of your wedding gown was an example of passive aggression.
Your mother and sister aren’t trying to spoil your happiness about your wedding. They are trying to manipulate and blackmail you into excluding your former stepmother.
From this outsider’s perspective, you haven’t done anything wrong — but they have.
Dear Abby: I recently started volunteering at a wonderful organization and was asked to assist the board with a special project.
At the initial meeting with two board members, everything was going well until the first board member excused himself and the other one began to bad-mouth the person who had left the room.
I’m new to volunteering here. Neither board member knows me at all. I was uncomfortable, and I didn’t know how to respond.
I don’t want to get involved in such petty business, but I’ll have to work closely with both of them in the coming months. Most of my interactions will be with the person who was spoken about poorly. At least three board members have recently quit because of this person. How should I proceed?
— New Volunteer
Dear New Volunteer: Proceed by not allowing yourself to be dragged into board politics. If one board member starts bad-mouthing another, excuse yourself.
If three people have quit, problems obviously exist with the governance of the organization. If you can do your job without getting involved in the dysfunction, stick with it. If you can’t, for your own sanity, find another place to volunteer.
For more at http://www.sheindressau.com/wedding-dresses-sydney
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