Hey all,
Anyone with a same kind of problem as I have?
My boyfriend is not capable of speaking. I have no way of getting through to him no matter how hard I try. Each time I would like to sit down & get serious, he only gets nervous and avoids all kinds of conversations when it is about our relationship.
I'd like to discuss things like us, I'd like to know what I mean to him. He has been unfaithful to me (not anymore, I hope) and that has made me more careful. I need discussion, I need to hear & feel what I mean to him. But no, he won't talk. He basically lives with me, but how can I know for sure how he feels for me if does not tell me?
We have been together for 6 months now. Only for a few times, with help of couple of beers, we have spoken but never enough. This guy is not able to speak about his feelings and it is also impossible to plan anything for future with him. Still I feel it's about time to get serious and if still not co-operative, I think I should just let him go.
I don't want to loose him, but being very uncomfortable in a relationship because of the lack of discussion about serious things I am about to go.
Any advice what to do & how to handle this kind of guys? This insecurity is really killing me inside...
Btw: Any replies can be done in finnish too. I understand it and can read it, but I am very bad in writing it... :)
Anyone with a same kind of problem as I have?
My boyfriend is not capable of speaking. I have no way of getting through to him no matter how hard I try. Each time I would like to sit down & get serious, he only gets nervous and avoids all kinds of conversations when it is about our relationship.
I'd like to discuss things like us, I'd like to know what I mean to him. He has been unfaithful to me (not anymore, I hope) and that has made me more careful. I need discussion, I need to hear & feel what I mean to him. But no, he won't talk. He basically lives with me, but how can I know for sure how he feels for me if does not tell me?
We have been together for 6 months now. Only for a few times, with help of couple of beers, we have spoken but never enough. This guy is not able to speak about his feelings and it is also impossible to plan anything for future with him. Still I feel it's about time to get serious and if still not co-operative, I think I should just let him go.
I don't want to loose him, but being very uncomfortable in a relationship because of the lack of discussion about serious things I am about to go.
Any advice what to do & how to handle this kind of guys? This insecurity is really killing me inside...
Btw: Any replies can be done in finnish too. I understand it and can read it, but I am very bad in writing it... :)
Vastaukset 4
Vanhimmat
your boyfriend doesn't speak english.
Tell me why you have to be so annoying and gnag about your relationship all the time? I´m not surprised at all that your boyfriend are not interested this kind of dialog. You scarded something? Maybe that you loose your guy? (apparently...)
Stop harping and focus on your affair.
And you JoJo...Maybe you'd like to take care of your grammar before you write in english, now you sound like Alabama nigger... and little question...? What do you know about relationships, any kind?
This woman was interested to have some advice for _relationship_ , _not_ affair...like you'd know anything about either one...ha.
...and your grammar is correct? Buahahah...Okay, I admit there´s a few mistakes but ya know, if ya daily argue in English with someone, you just rule out some little errors and that´s not wrong. It´s not so important to express yourself so accurate if ya just chat. But in conference, situation is complitely different. Maybe ya find out what I mean.
As far as we talking about my anterior relationships, it´s definitely not the point. If you look at the enquirers problem again, you can find same fact as I.
Maybe it´s better that you don´t lurk every word, meaning, comment and punctaution marks cause it just muddle your little head, okay?