and hi didnt say anything.
We are divorcing, he is in holiday, home with the 5 and 4 years old kids and I am 10 hours a day at work.
Yeasterday about lunch time, he took the kids to some friends and he didn't tell me anything. He didn't call or text that they are there. I usually trust him with the kids. I called him arround 21.30 to ask him when will he bring the kids home, he told me he wont, they will sleep at his friend's house because he couldnt drive, he was drunk.
I was telling him is not right what he does, not telling where the kids are and he told me they are his kids too and he doesn't need to tell me where they go and for how long.
Now, I am at work, he left the kids with his friends (man, woman 3 small kids) and he went to work. I am sick worried.
I hope he will bring the kids home by the time I get home.
Do I tell to lastenvalvoja or what should I do?
Thank you.
We are divorcing, he is in holiday, home with the 5 and 4 years old kids and I am 10 hours a day at work.
Yeasterday about lunch time, he took the kids to some friends and he didn't tell me anything. He didn't call or text that they are there. I usually trust him with the kids. I called him arround 21.30 to ask him when will he bring the kids home, he told me he wont, they will sleep at his friend's house because he couldnt drive, he was drunk.
I was telling him is not right what he does, not telling where the kids are and he told me they are his kids too and he doesn't need to tell me where they go and for how long.
Now, I am at work, he left the kids with his friends (man, woman 3 small kids) and he went to work. I am sick worried.
I hope he will bring the kids home by the time I get home.
Do I tell to lastenvalvoja or what should I do?
Thank you.
Vastaukset 6
Vanhimmat
Tell to lastenvalvoja or lastensuojelu very soon!
Take contact to your lastenvalvoja and soon also!
This is very wrong!
Do you know his friends well? Do children spend holiday with him? He must tell you where kids are.
Say to lastenvalvoja that he was drunk also.
have the right, because he is the father of those kids. Don't give false advice, and lastenvalvoja has right of dictating if and when he can use alcohol. You f*ckin feminazis think only women have rights for their kids. If this woman had taken their kids same way, all you feminazis would be cheering her for doing so.
The message was written with very broken English but I think I got the clue.... If the father of your children is a Finn, then there's no law against him taking the kids where ever he wants to. He has all the rights to be with them and it is what the fathers should do. It is his right to get drunk too, and he was doing the right thing to stay with the friends when there obviously was someone sober enough to look after the kids - all of them.
If you already have an agreement about the custody and he's done against it, then you can contact to lastenvalvoja. But otherwise, let the children decide whether they want to be with their father or with you. Dot'n start using them as a weapon against your ex-husband.
This is just an advice of a woman who's been there done that.
Man takes kids and don´t tell the mum where they are and you ppl think its ok? Every mother has the right to know where her kids are. Especially when he says oh i took them to my friend. As a mother i would be very worried who this friend is if i don´t know him. When there are 2 parents not only one can say yes lets trust this guy with our kids. Who knows if hes some druggie friend of the fathers? Allso if he goes to a mate of hes and gets drunk and cant bring the kids back Tho they agreed kids will be at home after nine is bullshit. Specially when the dad was at work the day after and just left the kids with someone who the mum don´t even know. What kinda dad gets wasted during the week and cant bring kids back because of hes drunken state? And yet still refuses to tell the mother where he is holding the kids. I don´t know if this couple lives together or not but no matter how it is this is very wrong. Mother seems to be the main takecarer and she has allö the rights in the world to know where her babies are!
Yes you should contact some authority you know and discuss about this for your sake and especially the kids sake.
and I will tell to the lastenvalvoja abut this.
Thank you all for the support. As about the frustrated father, I am sorry but unfortunatelly u are in such a minority that u shouldn't even be here expressing ur frustration.
My kids are ok and my future-ex has learned his lesson.
Anyway,I'll have the kids custody and I will never let my kids with him without knowing in advance their program.
Have a sunny day to all!